Saturday, December 1, 2012

13 tips for heating up your relationship: Hot Winter Nights Blog Hop--Day 1

It's December 1--know what that means?  Yep, it's the kick off to Hot Winter Nights. Welcome to the blog hop and giveaway! (Winners announced on December 6)

 On this blog, I'm giving away a $25 Target gift card to help out with some stocking stuffers this holiday season; however, the grand prizes are HUGE and listed below my post.  In order to win either the grand prizes for the overall hop or the prize here, you MUST leave a comment that includes your email address.  (and if you don't comment, you don't win, pretty simple. Comment link is at the very bottom of the post, beneath the links to the other hops!) 

Okay...now that the schpeel is over...let's get sizzling...

My four day series during this hop is all about spicing up these winter nights (and days)...

13 tips for heating up your relationship
by Amber Lea Easton

Have you been with your significant other for awhile now or do you simply want to keep the fun in your dating life?  Well, here are 13 tips to keep the sparks flying and the romance growing in your relationship.


  1. Amp up the adrenaline!  Yeah, you heard me.  Stimulating the body stimulates the mind and emotions.  Do something that snaps you out of the ordinary routine--go skiing, sledding, go-carting, horseback riding...whatever it is that YOU find exciting. 
  2. Send a sexy text.  Why not?  Sexting isn't just for celebrities and athletes, go ahead and match your thumb typing skills with your vivid imagination.  Sexting is an excellent way for couples to flirt with each other while apart, makes you smile and gets the juices flowing.  Hey, anticipation is mental foreplay and how could that be a bad thing?
  3. Make eye contact during sex.  Closing your eyes is fine, but it can give the impression that you're only their physically or are fantasizing about someone else.  Keeping your eyes focused on him, reinforces that it's HIM that's turning you on and enhances the emotional intensity of the moment.
  4. Take a risk in the bedroom.  Sometimes it's easy to fall into habits, especially after we figure out what works for us and what doesn't.  However, this can be bad when it comes to sex.  The brain is our biggest sex organ and when we experiment with new things, we stimulate the brain's desire for discovery.  Try out role-playing, break out the Kama Sutra or test out a sex toy...why not?  
  5. Compliment your man/partner! Who doesn't like hearing that they're smart, sexy, or amazing?  Let your partner know that the spark is still there, that you respect them and are attracted to them for many reasons.  Give compliments daily...it goes a long way to establishing that intimate connection.
  6. Kiss more often...just because.  C'mon, people!  Kissing is one of the best things we as human beings can do.  It's not just a prelude to sex...it's a way of connecting.  Kiss when you say hello or goodbye...kiss when you're passing the potatoes...kiss whenever you get a chance!  Make it a prolonged kiss, the kind we brag about when we're first dating...If you need kissing tips, look at my previous post about ramping up your kissing moves (see most popular blog posts over in the right hand column).  
  7. Surprise him! In relationships, it's easy to fall into planning everything around a routine.  Snap out of that and make a plan without him knowing it.  It doesn't need to be elaborate--breakfast in bed or dinner reservations during the week when it's least expected or something as simple as DVRing his favorite television show when you know he's going to miss it.  Never underestimate a simple surprise and its power to spark up the night!
  8. Be childlike--and, NO, this has nothing to do with baby talk!  As adults, we can get bogged down with talk about careers, money, plans, household projects...BLAH.  Do something unexpected like playing basketball in the driveway, hitting the swings in the park during a walk, planning a date to the zoo or local amusement park.  Sometimes a sense of childhood wonder and play is exactly what you need...and, if you're lucky, that sense of play will extend to the bedroom.
  9. Nicknames.  This may sound silly, but by incorporating private nicknames for each other (outside of the standard "honey" or "baby") you're creating a private world/language for just the two of you.  Pretty soon he'll smile whenever he hears it...and the two of you will get a kick out of having a "thing" that's solely yours.  
  10. Reveal a sexual fantasy.  Most women feel shy about revealing their fantasies, but the truth is we all have them.  Revealing your sexual fantasy to your partner can bring the two of you together, increase intimacy and is practically guaranteed to enhance arousal.  
  11. Offer a massage.  Yes, I know...we as women are always up for a massage, but offering to be the giver puts us in a place of sexual power.  A massage lets your partner indulge--and to make it truly sexy, make it be all about him this time, ask for nothing in exchange.  He'll repay you another day...maybe even later that night if you're lucky.  
  12. Get competitive!  Game playing--the good kind, not the manipulative kind--gets those juices flowing (refer to step 1).  Scrabble, Boggle, Taboo...games are fun competition that excite feelings between you.  
  13. Have an impromptu dance party for two.  I admit this is one of my favorites.  I love grabbing my guy for a quick dance in a parking lot or in the kitchen.  Long week?  Turn up the tunes and let loose in your living room.  He may look at you oddly for a minute, but he'll get in the spirit.  Dancing alleviates tension and the spontaneity of a private party for two can ignite a fun evening--especially if a few items of clothing get lost during the dance. (uh-hem)  Just get jiggy with it, baby! 
These are just a few suggestions to spice up these long, winter nights ahead.  What are your thoughts?  I'd love to hear some of your ideas.  

Speaking of frisky, the second post is up in my series about Frisky Festivities (in the bedroom...)...check it out and leave a comment there, too.  http://amberleaeaston.blogspot.com/2012/12/festive-friskiness-hot-winter-nights.html

Thanks for stopping by the Hot Winter Nights Blog Hop and Giveaway!  Here's the grandprize info--don't forget to hop along and leave your comments with email addresses along the way.  The more times you enter, the greater your chances of winning!  
Grand prize is a $100 value consisting of 11 ebooks, $50 Amazon gift card and $10 Bookstrand bucks! Woot!  Commenters on each blog are eligible to win the grand prize. 
Keep hopping--click on the other blog links below! Have fun!

50 comments:

A.L. Easton said...

Remember to leave your email address in the comments to be eligible to win--and hop around as much as possible. Come back tomorrow for another post. Thanks for stopping by!

Chynarey said...

I'll expand on your #10 and say act out a sexual fantasy...

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Ronda (Queentutt's World of Escapism) said...

Love your tips and I actually use them through out the whole year. Been with hubby for 15 years this Dec 20th and we still hold hands and sit by each other on the couch in the evenings to watch TV. Even when we are in bed we still hold each other and if one turns over in the night, we somehow are still touching each other by crossing a leg or a foot over the other ones.

Hope you have a blissful hot winter night and happy holiday.

Ronda Tutt
mrsqueentutt@gmail.com

laurie said...

such awesome tips. loved reading all of em

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Rissa said...

Awesome Tips & What a great idea for a prize! Thanks for the chance to win :) raynman1979 at yahoo dot com

Avendesorra4 said...

Great tips!
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Jean MP said...

Great tips, thanks for the giveaway.
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kittyb78 said...

Awesome post! Thanks so much for sharing the tips. :)
I know it sounds mundane, but, hubby and I talk. We talk about whatever is on our minds.
Sometimes it can get steamy, most times it brings us even closer than we already are.
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Gabby said...

I'll keeps these tips in mind for me and my future significant other, thanks for sharring!

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laura troxel said...

Love the tips. Some of them my husband and I already do everyday. We have been married 24yrs.
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A.L. Easton said...

Talking is never mundane! I debated about putting it on the list...and maybe should have...but I was trying to keep it short. Ha. There are a few more I could have added in terms of relationships in general, but who knows...there are three more days of the hop...I may run out of material and need to an entire post on talking dirty, talking without censors, sexting skills and...never mind me, just thinking out loud. LOL You'll need to come back and see what I end up writing. :-)

A.L. Easton said...

And for those who've been married for decades and implement some of these tips already, I say, "CONGRATS TO YOU! YOU ARE THE SHINING EXAMPLE OF DOING IT RIGHT!" Woot! I love hearing about true life happy endings...perhaps that's why I'm a romance writer, right? Bring me a good love story any day! :-) Yay!

K. April Holgate said...

Love the tips for warming up the nights! Gonna have to try a few!

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Shar Simms said...

Great list!
Thanks!
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Nay Nay said...

I love to curl up by the fire on a cold winter night with the hubby drinking hot chocolate toddies and watching a movie, or reading a HOT romance book if hubby is working. Thanks for being part of the hop and for the chance to win. <^_^>
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Ingeborg said...

Great tips, thank you.

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JanD said...

I like #1 and #12 for chilly nights.
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Anonymous said...

Thanks for the tips but short of the little blue pill, I may never get any again. LOL But I love him and he makes me laugh and sometimes that is more important, right? RIGHT? LMAO

Thanks so much for the great prize and being a part of this amazing hop.

Happy Holidays,
Marlena
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CBarton said...

Marlena you crack me up!!LMAO Thank you for being a part of the hop and for the tips.

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Anonymous said...

Thanks for the tips.... Great idea for the prize!!!

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susanmp said...

After the kids are asleep, I love to snuggle on couch under a warm blanket with a HOT book! I love your tips

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Liese2 said...

Thanks for the great tips and thanks for the chance to win!
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JoAnna said...

Thanks for the tips. Will be trying out a few. Thanks for the giveaway!

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scottsgal said...

kiss, kiss, kiss - #6 is good
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Missy Emery said...

Awesome post! Thanks for the chance to win!

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Terri said...

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i love cuddeling up with my nook and reading thanks for the hop

Foretta said...

Thanks for contest
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Elise Chase said...

Thank you for participating in the blog hop!

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Belinda G said...

A hot winter night to me is either sitting by the fire snuggling under a comfy throw just talking or watching a movie with the love of your life…heaven! You can’t ask for anything better…

Love the tips to spice up the relationship. I'm going to have to use one or two..lol

Thanks for the opportunity to share, meet new authors and perhaps snag new books to read.

Belinda G
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BLHmistress said...

I use quite of few if not all of those, especially the kissing- I kiss my honey when he leaves for work, comes home , any chance I get ;).

Dawna Newman

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Swordlily said...

Nice tips!
thanks for joining the hop :)
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Kelsey Summer said...

Great tips and a great giveaway!

Thank you!

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Veronika said...

Thank you for the post! Happy Holidays to you!
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Jyl22075 said...

Thanks for all the great tips!

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Mel Bourn said...

Love the competetive games! They are even better in the nude!
Have a kinky holiday.
Mel
bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

Sharon Chalk said...

I am single right now,but I wrote down all your tips because some I have thought if I was with someone I would do that,but I might forget and they were all excellent tips because the next boyfriend is going to be the one,I have decided that,so I am going to all I can to keep the relationship fresh so he wants to stay always,but as I am single now I have to admit seeing the books in the prize section,made me drool,if I don't have someone right now,I love reading my romances so when he does walk into my life,I will know what to do to keep him in my life,so if you can't introduce me to my one and only then winning the books would give me something to look forward to when I do find him lol gmail is zanarigrandma@gmail.c
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bn100 said...

Nice ideas.

Thanks for the giveaway.

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Lona said...

Love #13, Thx for the great list.

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latishajean said...

What a great list of tips! Thank you for the great giveaway! fun blog hop thanks for the chance!
Latisha D
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bison61 said...

wonderful tips my husband and I do #13 the dance party we'll turn up the radio and dance

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Brandi Slater said...

Thanks for the awesome tips!
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Sherry said...

Wonderful tips!! Thanks for the giveaway.
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Julianne Keller said...

I really like the play games idea. We are both very competitive. I love to play boggle. I'm very good at it and have a hard time finding someone to challenge me. Another thing to spice things up is some role playing. Pretend you don't know each other at a restaurant and see where it goes.
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Anonymous said...

I have just discovered your books. They sound wonderful. Thanks for the chance to win.

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Kim D said...

great tips
Great giveaway!
Merry Christmas
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Anonymous said...

a wonderful list of ideas-you can also lead your lover on a treasure hunt-maybe hide ingredients to a bubble bath for two along with some sexy suggestions on what spots you want to "help" wash gnggoetz@aol.com

Vivian Quinn said...

I asked Santa to let me win hope I do!!
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Shadow said...

Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaway! Best wishes and many blessings to you and yours!
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Carla said...

I love all your lists. They are the greatest. I read them to my husband. We got a kick out of them. Thanks for sharing.
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Raonaid Luckwell said...

Having fun jumping here or there! This is a fun blog hop!

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