Friday, August 31, 2012

The art of kissing

 For this sexy series, I'm talking about how YOU can step up the sexy in your life.  Today it's kissing, tomorrow lingerie, after that...who just keeps getting better.  (check out the links to the other BeSexy posts!) You may not be able to control other people, but if you feel confident and sexy, it's amazing what can happen in the romance department.  Trust me.  I'm a romance writer, right? *wink*

Ah...the sweet satisfaction of a kiss.  Sometimes this art form--yes, I said art form--is lost over time in a relationship or we get stuck into thinking it's merely the joining of lips.  A kiss communicates passion and wanting.  More than stimulates desire.  Why not mix it up a bit?  Experiment?  Your lips can be creative when you let yourself go.

The eye kiss:  This isn't as weird as you might think.  It's actually very sweet and romantic.  Start with other kisses--like the standard lip kiss--to lull your partner into a state of relaxation.  When his/her eyes are closed, press your lips gently over one eye and then the other.  Return often to the lips to keep your partner satisfied, treating the eye kiss as the novelty it is.

The ear kiss: For some people, the ears are one of the most sensitive places on the body.  Kiss the earlobe as if it were a lower lip--suck it, nibble on it, tug on it with your lips.  Make little mmmmm sounds. Breathe softly against your partner's skin...the sound of your breathing is exciting at a time like this.  The trick here is to be careful about the volume of your sounds or breathing directly into your partner's ear.  Go easy.

The sliding kiss:  Think of this one as savoring your partner.  Slide your lips across the mouth, over the face, down the neck, over the chest...anywhere you want.  The key here is to sliiiiiiiide your mouth over the skin as if savoring the contact.

The neck kiss:  I know what you're thinking--hickeys from high school, right?  No.  By massaging the neck with your tongue rather than biting or sucking, you'll avoid leaving your mark where it's not wanted.  Of a recent kissing survey, 97% of women and 9 out of 10 men find the neck the most arousing place to be kissed aside from the mouth.  After a few kisses on the mouth, drop down and kiss the side of the neck.  Place tender kisses in the hollow of the neck (the depression where the chin touches if you bend your head all the way forward), lick as if you were drinking from a cup.  From behind, exhale onto the back of your partner's neck as if marking your target, then bite and kiss that spot--gently.  Nipping but not sucking.

The biting kiss:  Ah, things are escalating when this comes into play.  A biting kiss is sophisticated, sensual, playful and serious--it conveys affection, deep desire and controlled aggression. It's most often implemented when things are really heating up between you.  The first rule here is "be gentle"--seriously, we're not vampires out for blood.  Nip deep enough so that you're able to lift the skin with your teeth.  If you're careful, it won't hurt--or I should say it'll hurt in a good way not in the "get the hell off of me" way.  You can also vary the kiss between using your teeth or lips only for different sensations.  Here are some don'ts---Don't try it on a first date, know your lover well before venturing into the realm of the biting kiss.  Don't draw blood.  Don't try biting through clothes, you'll only end up getting a mouth full of material and perhaps ruining a good shirt.
Check out the other BeSexy posts at these links:
Let's Strip!
Embrace YES! 
Go Be Sexy!

Books by Amber Lea Easton: 
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Feel free to comment, but the giveaway is over. Thanks! 


Amber Lea Easton said...

Don't forget to leave a comment--AND your email! Thanks. Smooch away! :)

laurie said...

i'd prefer an amazon gift card

ya also forgot to add that kissing don't work if the kisser has no talent for it..cuz i have kissed a few ppl who do NOT know how to kiss lol

Unknown said...

Thanks for the great post giveaway! I'd love an Amazon Gift Card.

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Unknown said...

What a fun hop!
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Unknown said...

I love the kiss breakdown, I'll have to try them all tonight ;). I'd prefer amazon

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Krista said...

I would take either gift card, but I would prefer the Amazon card.

Thanks for doing this giveaway!
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Anonymous said...

I'd prefer the Amazon card. Love the permutations of kissing!


Sharon Clare said...

What a fun post! I love all your kiss variations. I agree, I think the neck is very sexy.

I prefer B & N please and thank you for your generous offer.


Dovile said...

I'd prefer a GC to Thank you for the chance!

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Unknown said...

There is nothing quite like a mind-blowing, knee-buckling great first kiss!! To add to your list above, there is something to said about the anticipated kiss with one (or both) hands on the side of the face or neck... (B&N gift card plz)

Pat Reiners said...

Never disappointed when reading your blogs!
Amazon please

Tammy Dennings Maggy said...

Kissing is my all time fave thing to do with my hubby. Every single time he kisses me, I melt. Even if it's just a quick peck before we head off to work he makes my pulse race.

Then there is that fantastic french kiss...ooooo...I turn into a giggling teenager every time and he LOVES that.So you can guess what happens next....lots of kissing! LOL


Amber Lea Easton said...

Hahahahaha! I love you guys. Kissing is one of the best things we humans can do--I say do it often!

Evie said...

What a fun post! Love it!
I'd like to win an Amazon gc.
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Kaylyn D said...

I agree! Kissing your partner helps. All those kisses are great. All three of your posts were wonderful. I love that you are encouraging people to keep up the romance in their relationships. Thank you for the giveaway. I would prefer Amazon if I win the GC.

AnnaM. said...

What a fun post! Thanks! If you choose me, I don't care which I win. Winning is winning and I have every reading program there is, I think. lol.

Have a great day!
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Kim D said...

Thanks tons for the hop! I only read romance. My fav is Lora Leigh! Going to parade Monday with brothers and sisters! Should be FUN!

Elizabeth H. said...

I prefer an Amazon GC if chosen.
Thanks for joining the blog and for the awesome giveaway!
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Brandi Slater said...

I would prefer BN gift card. I love your rules and don'ts on the biting kiss lol Thanks for being part of the blog hop and for the giveaway!

jodi lasher said...

I would prefer an amazon card. Thanks for joining this hop. you rock..
jodi lasher

Cryscringle said...

Wow, I'll definitely keep those tips in mind. They sound very exciting, haha! :) Thank you for the giveaway! I would prefer an Amazon GC.

Crystal Craig

booklover0226 said...

OMG! I loved this post; it was a great read. I look forward in reading your other posts in this blog hop.

Tracey D
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booklover0226 said...

I forgot to add, if chosen, I would like the Amazon GC, please.

Tracey D
booklover0226 at gmail dot com

rubyswan said...

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Daniel M said...

yep 1st kiss could make or break it, and amazon please - regnod(at)yahoo(d0t)com

Unknown said...

Kissing is one of my favorite activities! I must admit I prefer more of the biting kiss and can't stand the ear kiss. Gives me the willies! But a great kisser is so important to me.

If I should be so lucky as to be a winner, I would love the Amazon card.

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Sherry said...

Thanks for the giveaway. I really enjoyed your post. I would love the Amazon GC if I won.
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Yazmin said...

Thank you for being part of the blog hop. :)


Shadow said...

Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaways! This is so much fun! Thank you! My favorite thing about romance is the romance. lol I love the characters, the plots, the HEA's, the love. I love it all!