Saturday, September 1, 2012

Let's strip!--Be Sexy Series

For the second installment of the BeSexy series where I'm talking about how YOU can ramp up the sexy in your life, I'm writing about what lies beneath the blushing!  This post is about bringing the sexy back into our lives--even if you're flying solo at the moment. may not be able to control other people, but if you feel confident and sexy, it's amazing what can happen in the romance department.  Trust me...I'm a romance writer. *wink*

Let's be honest, it's easy to get lazy when it comes to turning up the sexy in our own lives.  Between work, kids, housework, pets, extended family, and friends, our time is limited and slacking off on certain things becomes a bad habit. By certain things, I'm referring to what lies beneath the clothes.

When is the last time you bought yourself sexy underwear just because it made you feel good?  I'm not talking about spending a fortune either, just indulging in something lacy or silky because it feels good on your skin. You don't need an excuse to pamper yourself--no need to wait for an anniversary, if you're in a relationship--or a boyfriend for that matter, if you're single.

Look in your underwear drawer.  Is there anything with holes or anything that's stained?  Toss it out NOW.  Are your bras not what they used to be or are they tending to look more like grandma wear rather than hot wear?  Get rid of them NOW.  Seriously.  I'm not joking.  There is no excuse for you to be wearing anything that says "I've given up on my sexuality".  No, money is not an excuse--you can find cute undies and bras anywhere these days at an affordable price.

Knowing that you're wearing something sexy beneath the sweatpants as you're picking up the kids from school or beneath the conservative suit at work puts you back in touch with your femininity.  No matter how independent we are as women, no matter how strong, there's something powerful about being in touch with our own sexuality.

Oh, and in case you just woke up and realized that it's 2012, hairy is out, girls.  I don't care if you haven't had a boyfriend for a year or if your husband is snoring on the sofa by 9PM, shave your legs...etcetera.  Wax, laser, whatever...maintain yourself.  You just never know when an intimate moment may present itself.  And educate your man on manscaping--hairy is OUT.  (If you don't know what manscaping is well...think about it for a there...very 1980s.)

Sexy lies in the little details that we often slack off when comfort sets in.  Don't misunderstand; I'm all about comfort! But it doesn't take much effort to toss out ratty old underwear and replace it with new; nor does it take much effort to stay silky smooth.

You're not doing these things for someone else either--I want to emphasize that.  You're doing these things because you deserve to feel pretty, you deserve to treat yourself well.  The more confident you feel, the sexier you'll be.  Like I me, I'm a romance novelist. *wink*

If you missed my first installment in the Be Sexy Series about the art of kissing, check it out here:

Novels by Amber Lea Easton

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JeanMP said...

Great post, yes get very complacent, I know my husband really loves it when I wear something cute and sexy, don't do it enough and must admit I always feel so much better when I wear sexy underwear. Time for a drawer cleanout!
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Jesse Kimmel-Freeman said...

Great post. The panty picture totally threw my hubby, he was like "they're giving away underwear?" LOL... He loves to see me in sexy stuff.

Celeste Jones said...

Great post. And thanks for the reminder to amp things up. Seems women tend to put everything else before ourselves and that's not a good thing.

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mariehahn13 said...

What a great post! It made me laugh out loud and literally say AMEN! :) It's always good to remember that spending the time to take care of yourself makes a huge difference in how you feel about yourself, and how you act!

Thank you for the awesome giveaway as well! :)

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Tammy Dennings Maggy said...

Great post, Amber! I agree 100% about the sexy lingerie and keeping smooth all over. Doing just those little things makes ME feel sexy and in turn catches my hubby's eye a LOT! I'm lucky enough to have someone who makes me feel sexy even when I have serious bed head. ;)

Oh and yes he is into "manscaping" hehehe


Foretta said...

Great post!!! I love romance books but they must have HEA’s! My favorite are series because I love seeing the characters again in other books!!

thanks for the contest!!

Amber Lea Easton said...

Oh, I'm loving all the comments! Let's see how I do here in addressing some of them:
Jean MP--good luck cleaning out the drawers!
Jesse--hilarious that you're hubbie thought we were giving away underwear. LOL
Celeste--Exactly! We need to move ourselves up the priority list!
Marie--So happy that I made you laugh out loud. That's the best compliment in the world.
Tammy--there's nothing sexier than a man who makes YOU feel sexy no matter what (and the fact that he manscapes is even better!)
Foretta--Happily ever afters are why we romance writers do what we do--we're in it for the LOVE!

Kaylyn D said...

That is wonderful advice. Unfortunately I am very guilty of not cleaning out my undie drawer enough. Thank you for the giveaway. Amazon is my preferred gc.

AnnaM. said...

I like the covers of your books. The sunset is very pretty. Love the rocks on your site too.

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JanD said...

Great advice. I sometimes slack off on the shaving specially in the winter.
Amazon gc.
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Kim D said...

Thanks tons for the hop!

Brandi Slater said...

Loved the post! I just had a "me" day last Friday where I took a nice bath and pampered myself and when I get paid next week I am going to go shopping because too many of my clothes are worn out and have holes in them :)

magic5905 said...

Thanks for the great hop, love Amazon
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Cryscringle said...

I don't think I have EVER in my life worn something sexy like lingerie or anything like that, haha. I'm only nineteen, so I guess it's not that surprising... maybe. :) Thank you for these awesome tips and for the giveaway! I'd prefer an Amazon GC.

Crystal Craig

booklover0226 said...

Another great post; I enjoyed reading it.

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booklover0226 said...

Oops, I forgot to add, if chosen, I would like the Amazon GC, please.

Tracey D
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rubyswan said...

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Pleasingly weak, Captured I glory in this rarity one of a Kind, For my soul mind & my will is lost forever in images of Visual Art in time. I Must confess that, I'm left to moan & groan nor do I have desires of it to leave me along! Nonethelesss..I'm a slave to it's pull & caress.. My problem is quickly solved..I'm Captured, my will shatters into a million pieces & dissolvess.. Seduce without shame, I'm a lover of the Visual Art's game..I'm weak from starts..of this Visual Art, deep down in my heart..I'm destine to forever seek.

Meg G. said...

Very great post!! Interesting reading for sure!

Thanks for the great giveaway!

Meg G.

Daniel M said...

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Unknown said...

You are so right about cleaning the underwear drawer. I did that about a year ago. I love how i look and feel in my new sexy underwear.

Thanks for the giveaway. Amazon works best for me.

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Sherry said...

Wonderful post I don't wear sexy underwear enough.
I would love the Amazon GC if I won.
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Shadow said...

Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaways! This is so much fun! Thank you! My favorite thing about romance is the romance. lol I love the characters, the plots, the HEA's, the love. I love it all!