Monday, December 3, 2012

Getting in the mood--Hot Winter Nights Blog Hop Day 3

Welcome to the 3rd day of Hot Winter Nights Blog Hop and Giveaway! (Winners announced on December 6)

 On this blog, I'm giving away a $25 Target gift card to help out with some stocking stuffers this holiday season; however, the grand prizes are HUGE and listed below my post.  In order to win either the grand prizes for the overall hop or the prize here, you MUST leave a comment that includes your email address.  (and if you don't comment, you don't win, pretty simple. Comment link is at the very bottom of the post, beneath the links to the other hops!) that the schpeel is over...let's get sizzling...

Just can't seem to get in the mood these days?  You're not alone--let's see what we can do about that.

For the past few days, I've spoken about ways to heat up your relationship, but none of those tips are useful if you simply aren't in the mood.  Let's face it--sometimes we're just feeling blah, cranky, and tired and the last thing we want to do is get intimate with someone.  But here's the thing--staying connected to your partner and/or simply satisfying your own needs is vital to your overall well-being and shouldn't be relegated to the bottom of your priority list.  

Below are a few ideas to boost your confidence, ramp up your sexy-factor and turn yourself on in the process.   

  1. First--take a time out! If you're not in the mood, but you'd like to be, give yourself some alone time to clear your head.  Breathe deeply, relax and you may surprise yourself that your mind catches up to your body's desire.  Sometimes all we need is some time to disconnect from the daily stresses of our lives so we can connect with the one we love. 
  2. Read the personal ads on Craig's List (but don't respond).  This is fun, quick and a lot like reading a romance novel. Whether it's women seeking man, women seeking women, man seeking get the idea...taking a few minutes to do this gets you out of your head thinking about ordinary things and starts revving your own internal sex machine.  What are you seeking? 
  3. Watch 9 1/2 Weeks! Remember that sexy movie from long ago--well, it's power to excite is timeless. For that matter, any sexy movie that works for YOU is only a click away these days thanks to the internet, on-demand, Netflix, etc.  
  4. Massage your belly button.  What?!  Yes, there are two acupressure points in your belly button region that stimulate your sexual arousal.  About two inches beneath your belly button, massage in a clockwise motion or run your finger in a straight line between your belly button and pelvic bone.  Think of this as a push button for your libido---you'll be able to turn yourself on without getting disrobed.  
  5. Get naked ready.  Yeah, I know...I hate working out, too.  However, exercise does more than help you look good naked, it creates blood flow to all areas of your body--ALL areas--and makes it easier for you to get turned on.  
  6. Buy "sex" sheets.  No, I'm not talking about satin sheets that will have you sliding all over the place and won't be practical.  To me, sex sheets are a new set of high quality cotton sheets that make YOU feel indulgent and that you can visualize get wild in with your special someone.
  7. Eat dark chocolate.  (I'll be hard to force yourself to do this one, but give it a try!) Chocolate, at least 70% cocoa, raises PEA (phenylenylaline) that increases your arousal.  
  8. Stock a dress up drawer.  For those moments when you need a little something extra to feel special, have a drawer handy with lingerie or anything that makes you feel super sexy.  It's different for all of us--some women love wearing their man's t-shirt while others like slinky lingerie.  Maybe it's even a costume of some kind that gets you in a wild mood--a wig, a nurse outfit...Whatever it is for you, keep it in a special drawer that's handy.  
  9. Work out your girl parts!  Yep, kegal exercises are a great stimulant for the pelvic floor.  Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as if you're trying not to go pee or pass gas--do sets of ten or however many you like.  Working out the muscles around your clitoris and vagina stimulate blood flow to these areas, hence increasing your arousal.  
  10. Stage a lingerie fashion show for yourself.  Yes, for yourself.  This entire post is how to amp up your own feelings of sexiness, confidence and turn yourself on in the process.  Get in front of the mirror, dance like a stripper if you want, and do not--DO NOT--criticize yourself.  Very few of us in this world are models, so embrace your curves.  Celebrate you.  Once you learn to like how you you move...imagine how sexy you'll be to your partner!
  11. Have a glass of red wine.  Now, I admit that I'm more of a white wine person myself, but studies show that red wine increases arousal.  Antioxidants in red wine widen blood vessels and increase blood flow to...umm...key body parts.  
Did you miss my other posts of this hop?  Check them out, too, and be sure to comment.
Tempt, Tease and Tantalize
13 tips to heat up your relationship
Frisky Festivities--ideas to break out of your comfort zone in the bedroom

Thanks for stopping by the Hot Winter Nights Blog Hop and Giveaway!  Here's the grandprize info--don't forget to hop along and leave your comments with email addresses along the way.  The more times you comment the greater your chances of winning!  
Grand prize is a $100 value consisting of 11 ebooks, $50 Amazon gift card and $10 Bookstrand bucks! Woot!  Commenters on each blog are eligible to win the grand prize. 
Keep hopping--click on the other blog links below! Have fun!


Unknown said...

thjanks for the ideas and the hop
kaholgate at ymail dot com

Tina B said...

Some great advice! I may just have to try a few. ;)
Thank you for sharing!
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Unknown said...

Great tips!

Unknown said...

Great tips!

Brandi Slater said...

Love your ideas! Thanks for being part of the blog hop!

Juana said...

Thanks for being a part of this FUN blog hops. Awesome tips.


Sherry said...

Thanks for the great tips and giveaway hop.
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Unknown said...

Love Dark Chocolate. It is fantastic. Love the sheet idea. Gotta try that one.
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Unknown said...

Your tips are great. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes just adding one little thing can get the spice back into your relationship. I love doing all sorts of blog hops, I meet new to me authors and find lots and lots of books to add to my list.
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Amber said...

I'm going to have to try that belly button massage. I use acupressure points for headaches and tight muscles, why not for some instant heat.
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Kim D said...

thanks so much
Great giveaway!
Merry Christmas

Unknown said...

Exercising your lady parts does work at least that's what he tells me lol

Shadow said...

Thanks for the awesome hop and giveaway! Best wishes and many blessings to you and yours!

Raonaid Luckwell said...

Great advice! Thanks for the education! Great hop

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